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All Aboard the Train Bound for Somewhere!

Destinations:  Dublin, London, Athens, Prague, Budapest, Rome.   My daughter’s travel schedule for the next four months is neatly laid out with itineraries, travel buddies, airplanes, trains and buses, lots of euros, and a journal to record it all in.  Oh, and 17 little credits of classes to keep her focused on not having way too much fun!

Life destinations:  ?

Wouldn’t it be great if this journey we are on would list destinations just like train stops?  Instead of saying “Now approaching  Finley Square, Yorktown Center, Fountainhead,  Harbor Mall, etc” , we would hear the announcer say, ” You are now approaching level 3 life training, level 4, level 5″ as if our journey were linear and we actually graduated each time we learned something new.  Finally we would hear ” You have reached your final destination!  You have made it to ________(fill in the blank).  You can now get off the train and be on vacation for the rest of your life.  No more learning necessary.”  I think in the real world this is called death.

Unfortunately there is no getting off this life train, unless we exit horizontally.  Some of us are just much more aware that life is full of unending lessons.   If we really did have an announcer telling us about our journey, it would sound more like  ” Now approaching high levels of confusion, breakthrough, breathe, love  and assimilate, high levels of confusion…”    Once you have had a breakthrough and acquire knowledge, you just can’t go back to not knowing something.  I can’t just assume anymore that the headache I have is because of a physical ailment.  I now have to look at the mental, emotional and spiritual connections as well.   Sometimes I wish there was a stop called “Somewhere” , a place I could sit in a meadow of flowers and know that all the problems in my life were being taken care of.    No, I totally get my life is full of  AFGOs–Another f—— growth opportunity! ( Check out Geneen Roth’s book Women, Food and God)

I follow my intuition, trusting that I am being led down a certain path for a reason.  When that path appears to dead end, I always want to think that my intuition was wrong. Confusion sets in, making me second guess all my decisions.

Luckily I am breaking through that old thinking and  am beginning to trust myself more and understand maybe the path didn’t really lead to a dead end.   I am just not yet aware of the new path that will appear off of this going nowhere road.      If I am so focused on getting to the exact destination, even if it is wrong,  I might completely miss the little path that leads to my next big adventure.    I don’t know how long this new path will last either. Maybe another path will appear out of the woods.  And maybe my intuition will tell me that is a good place to be.

Life is all about learning to love me, and loving those around me,  no matter what road I end up on.  It is about being ok with the journey, and not always waiting to “arrive” somewhere.  There is no’ somewhere’ out there.   NOW is all there really is, and what I do with this moment will lead me to another decision in the next.  Learning to accept my path, and walking on it even through the challenges prepares me for the next stop on this train trip, even though I don’t have any idea what that is.

I only hope that my journey, wherever it takes me, helps me to learn to love others, and especially myself more deeply, accepting and trusting that I am in the right place, at the right time.

This Post Has 8 Comments
  1. Life is indeed a journey. I love the analogy of being “done” and then on permanent vacation. That sounds lovely…but then again would it?

    I do believe, in the end all we have is love.

  2. Hi Jan,

    The train stop analogy of a linear path is great! And yes, it would be comforting to have an awareness about what to expect … I’m sitting here giggling about your presentation of life! Ha ha! I guess our learning process is supposed to unveil itself in love, as we surrender to it. Yikes!

    Bring it on, Universe!

  3. There is a great little book called “The Lesson” and it is all about discovering that love was the lesson all along. I think if we can start to love ourselves more, we can learn to love the world around us more! I am so looking forward to seeing your coffee book!

  4. That is after all, the journey… learning to love ourselves where we are in this moment and knowing that all is well and as it should be!

  5. Jan, I love the “life stops.” Would make a great movie!
    After 45 years of living, I have to say that every little part of your journey builds on each other and somewhere down the road, you use every bit of it. I don’t know about the path being laid out for us, or we’re creating it, but I’ve come to believe it is the right place and the right time, all the time.

  6. Well said Terry. I agree that we use every lesson we learn, even when we don’t know why we learn something at the time! I am glad our paths have crossed!

  7. […] I love this quote.  It reminds me that even when I feel like I am not moving forward towards my goals, there is something of value to be found in every moment along the way.   I was sitting with Andrea Costantine  yesterday and we talked about how both of us tend to go where the wind blows us.  She is a fellow traveler on the road, moving in and through opportunities as they arise, just like me.   My life hasn’t been marked with the traditional success path of climbing a corporate ladder, or sticking to a career for 20 plus years.  I haven’t made it big in the stock market, and I don’t have a rich relative who will leave me a fortune.  But what I do have is the belief that every situation I have encountered has prepared me for the next.  I have a unique set of skills that continues to build and apply to the next opportunity I find.  I like Andrea’s idea that opportunities are permission slips to move ahead and try something new.  If it doesn’t stick, well, then I have gained something that will prove to be useful in the future. And even if I don’t fit a traditional definition of success, I just have to look at the love and friendship around me to know that I have done many things right in my life.  So I am freeing myself from living the perfect life, and being content being perfectly human!  If you missed my piece last year on a train bound for somewhere, you can catch it here. […]

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